After the long days of your birth, I came home and sat on the roof, thinking about you and your birth while listening to music. The sky was such a beautiful rosy pink. And I am so relieved that you are finally here and that you are doing well.
To start, I want to tell you about your family first – or especially about your mother. I am so deeply impressed by her. In the past few days, she has shown so much strength, perseverance, and patience, and truly gave everything, her last bit of energy, to give you the best possible start in life.
It was a long journey with you. The pregnancy was not always easy. Even when I saw your mother at the 37-week pregnancy checkup, it was difficult for her. She could no longer sleep well, and the water retention was very hard on her.
From that moment until your birth, exactly one more month passed. From the due date onward, your parents did everything to support you so that your birth could begin. And suddenly another seven days had passed, and you still felt very comfortable in your mother’s belly.
After nine days had passed, we decided to slowly give you some support from the outside so that your birth could get going. First with a labor cocktail, then with medical induction. This also took its time.
When twelve days after your due date had passed, contractions began. Many contractions, a long time with labor pains – and unfortunately without progress in labor. The cervix would not open.
With an epidural and further contraction support, the cervix then opened nicely. Two days after the first labor contractions, it was finally fully dilated, and two hours later we saw your hair.
Throughout the entire process, your head was repeatedly not well positioned. We did so much to help you position yourself properly: many exercises, even almost a headstand, lots of shaking, lots of movement. But your little head remained not optimally positioned until the end.
Your heart tones began to react, your mother slowly developed a fever. After all those hours of such hard work – especially by your mother, but also by your father, your midwives, and your doctors – you ultimately decided that enough had been tried. Your heart tones reacted longer after pushing, and so it was clear to us: In order for you to come into the world healthy and well, we had to help you.
You were then born by cesarean section a few minutes later. It was good that you showed us this so clearly, because the last part of the birth was really stressful for you. We also saw this after your birth: You did great, but still needed a little breathing support. For all of us, it was not easy to accept how the birth came to its end. I hope with all my heart that your mother can still be proud of herself and of the fact that she is now your mother.
Dear little person, I wish you all the best for your life from the bottom of my heart. I hope that you can fully make up for the time you are now separated from your parents, that you as a family can make up for this time well – lots of cuddling, enjoying, and finally being united.
I wish you a life full of love and support.